The greatest service I can offer is . . .
resisting the tendency to be resistant.
There is a process of living that few of us know much about but many of us practice. It is a way of living and being that creates hostility and bad feelings. This process has even led to war! It is a process that pits your good against the good of someone else. In order to engage in the process, one must believe in right vs. wrong. Good vs. bad. My way vs. your way. In the midst of the process, people are hurt. Sometimes lives are lost, and for all the arguing or fighting that goes on, nothing is ever proven conclusively. The process is against-ness.
To be against something is to deem it unworthy of consideration or bad at the very least. At worst, against-ness poses a threat to who you are, what you believe in and what you want in life. Against-ness is the belief that if someone gets what they are after, you will not get what you are after. If you believe that you have the right way to the good thing, it stands to reason that everyone else is wrong. You are constantly on the lookout to ensure that the thing you are against is not coming near. Unfortunately, the harder you look for it, the more of it you will see.
The way to live without against-ness is to live from a place of for-ness. Rather than working against something, simply be for something else. Invest your time, energy and attention in working to bring about the things that you desire to experience. When you are confronted by something that challenges what you are working toward, do not be against it! Allow other things to exist. Simply choose to put your attention elsewhere.
Until today, you may have been expending so much energy working against certain things that you have not been working for anything else. Just for today, drop all against-ness. Focus your attention elsewhere. Just for today, drop all against-ness. Focus your attention and energy on the things that you can stand up for.
Today I am devoted to allowing everything the right to exist and choosing what I am for!
From Until Today!
by Iyanla Vanzant