Iyanla Vanzant is the founder and executive director of Inner Visions International and the Inner Visions Institute for Spiritual Development. She is the author of 13 titles—including five New York Times bestsellers—and the Inner Visions CD Series. Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through has been published by SmileyBooks and available here. Iyanla is a Spiritual Technician. She is a Master Teacher. She is a woman of passion, clear vision and purpose, with a wicked sense of humor. Ordinary? Maybe. We think Dr. Maya Angelou's description is much more appropriate. Iyanla is, by many accounts, a Phenomenal Woman!
I will know peace when . . .
I am fully present in love in order to experience to full benefits of love.
There are many ways to exit a relationship. You can exit mentally by demonstrating that you are preoccupied by more important thoughts. You can exit emotionally by finding somewhere else to express and experience your passion. You can exit physically by finding ways and excuses for not being present. Or, you can leave spiritually by removing your trust, your respect, your love, your compassion from what you do and what you say.
Sometimes we exit a relationship because of unresolved feelings of anger or betrayal, stemming from past experiences. More often than not we exit a relationship because we feel we are not getting the love we need. Unfortunately, we often blame the otherperson when our desires are not met. In reality, we haven't asked for what we want or need.
How often have you honestly expressed to your partner exactly what you want or why you want it? When was the last time you shared with your partner how you will feel when you get it the thing you need? How can you expect to get what you want if you don't ask for it? How can you expect to receive the things you say you want if you are not physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually present to receive them?
There are some cases when we know, without a doubt that the time has come to leave a relationship. This is not the kind of exit we are examining here. We are talking about taking your mind, your body, your heart or your soul out of where you are being loved because you are not getting what you have not asked for. This type of exit is not only self destructive, it is a sure-fire way to ensure that you never get the very thing you say you want. Could it be that you really don't believe you deserve it?
Until today, you may have remained in arelationship that you exited a long time ago. Just for today, be present enough to ask for what you want, and remain present long enough to receive it.
Today I am devoted to being fully present, open, and willing to receive the things I say I want in a relationship!
From Until Today!
by Iyanla Vanzant